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Was it ok for my aunt to mistreat her only blood sister my mother?

I have this aunt who left home once she reached adult hood. her dad was a drunk and her mother was from man to man...supposedly. let me inform you that my mother and her sister have the same mother;they just share different fathers. my aunt felt leaving home would help her escape her troubled childhood. she left home and she and her husband were very successful;they lived a good life. they have two boys and the son who was adopted turned out great and their biological son turned out to be shit. my aunt has a nice two-story family home and she now has grandchildren by her shitty worthless biological son. excuse me for bashing my cousin like this but she spoiled him as a child and as a man, and now she can't get him to do anything. he is 40 years old and she is the one raising and taking care of his three children. he can't keep a job and he still lives at home with her. well enough about him lets focus on my horrible aunt. now my aunt use to come home from time to time on a regular basis. she use to visit my mother and stay at our house with us whenever she came home to visit. yes , SC is still her home whether she wants to accept it or not. so, over the years she formed this close relationship with my great uncle's wife. These two became so close that when my aunt came to visit she would go stay at my uncles house with her and go places with her and my mother would hardly ever see her. she called less frequently and she even got to the point of saying ugly things to my mother. my mom often asked her why didn't she see her as much and why didn't she spend as much time as she could with her why she was in town. she would often tell her that she was grown and she didn't have time to answer to anybody. she told my mother she knew where she was staying and all she had to do was come over and see her. well, my bitchy aunt told my mom that she was coming to town to solely spend lot and lots of time with her. Well over the years my mother became sick and while in the hospital my aunt came down to see her. the problem with that is my mother only saw her twice while she was in the hospital because my aunt went to the beach with my uncles wife . my mother saw her again when she was on her way back to California. my mother was fighting for her life and her sister came down to supposedly spend lots of time with her but instead she only saw her for two days and for two hours. my aunt is simply a sorry nasty ass bitch who i try not to hate but i cannot help it. my mother died and my aunt rose to bitch status again because she said she was only flying home when it was time for the funeral. she said she did not want to do anything but come to the funeral then fly back home after the funeral was over . the sad part about that is once she got to town not once did she come over to the house to see if we needed anything nor to see if we were ok. she went straight to my uncles house but i did see her the next day because she wanted to know if the limo had enough room so our uncle could ride in the limo with the rest of the family.Damn, how thoughtful of her to be concerned about our uncle riding in the family car and not her poor deceased sister's family.what a confused harlot.why did she come at all? we sure as hell wasn't going to miss her. but why did she fly down and even bother coming to my mothers funeral. was it for show and tell or to just make a name for herself. share your thoughts and opinions with me about the situation. should i hate this woman my aunt because she wronged her sister my mother before and near the end of her days or do i feel sorry for her. tell me what your thoughts are.

Is it right for people to tell me to put my 26 year old severly handicapped brother in a home?

I have a problem and I need answers. My baby brother was born severely handicapped. Our mom passed away this January due to surgical errors. She told me and my sister to care for him and we do. The problem we now face is with family members and outsiders telling us to put him in a home and to go on with our own lives. During my mother's funeral everyone was so concerned about how and who was going to care for my brother and all, so now those same motherfuckers and motherfuckettes are no where to be found. I know for a fact they are saying to themselves thank God it's not none of me walking in those shoes. My brother is not a problem;he is very tall....but he is not a problem. He cannot walk,talk ,feed nor bathe himself. I assure you, he is not a problem. And for those who felt he may have been a problem; where are their helping hands. Where are those same concerned individuals at when my brother needs a bath,needs to be fed,changed,taken for rides, etc. I feel the individuals who suppose to have the common sense are the ones with all the problems not my handicapped brother who i care for everyday.